Olivia’s Birth Story, A Generational Birth

This birth story began many years ago when I had a beautiful red headed blue eyed baby girl. She was the baby girl I thought I would never have. I had two beautiful boys who I loved and cherished dearly. They filled me with joy and life seemed pretty satisfying with them alone. I thought I was finished, but God decided differently and along came Caitlin.

Caite was a bright eyed inquisitive little girl who spoke her mind with little hesitation, melted your heart with her kindness, filled life with laughter and has been an endless fulfillment of mother/daughter friendship to this day. Thank you Lord for providing me with this gift.

As a Mom now she has given me the joy of being by her side during the births of her 3 beautiful children. There is no more joyful experience than to support, nurture, and in my case get to document the births of your own grandchildren. To see the strength your own daughter demonstrates in the most difficult labor of love there is in this world, birth, is the most fulfilling experience one could have. But with this birth I received the greatest honor of all. I got to deliver my granddaughter myself. I gleefully put down my camera, donned gloves and caught our Olivia…donned off the gloves and grabbed my camera again. The best!

I thank her midwife for offering up that opportunity and my daughter for allowing. What a blessing I will forever cherish.

Here is Olivia’s birth story, born August 28, (2 days after my own birthday) another special connection. She weighed 6# 2.5oz. She is perfect!

Jan is a birth photographer for the Kansas City, Lawrence, East-Central Kansas region. 

 

If you desire your birth story to be told through a cherished image collection, give her a call 785-214-5990 or email janbarkerphotography@gmail.com for more information.

 

Please Call Me Mom

When someone is pregnant, she is not “expecting a child” – she already has one. She is not “going to be a mother” – she already is a mother. The baby is not “on the way,” the baby has already arrived. If we are going to change the way society treats unborn children, we have to change the way we talk about them. -Frank Pavone, 7/7/12

I saw this post on Facebook a few days ago and it spoke to me through all the years I have watched so many women suffer through loss. Our society is so insensitive to women who have lost their babies before a term delivery is reached, and Frank Pavone hit it on the head. Until we change how we think about our unborn children, women will not get the proper closure to their loss.

When a woman losses a child at an early stage of pregnancy, she often feels dismissed and her loss minimized because society doesn’t tend to recognize the child for who it was. So often society (unless one has experienced this type of loss) fails to realize the depth of the loss this family has experienced. They do not recognize the loss of a Mom’s dreams of carrying her baby for 9 months, birthing her baby through her own strength, nursing her baby at her own breast. Believe me that Mom has dreamed and begun to see all that in her mind, experienced all of that in her plans. She has already experienced these joys in her own way, made decisions as a Mom for her child. It HAS already arrived. Dad’s experience this loss even more silently than Mom’s, with even less support.

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© Jan Barker/10 Fingers 10 Toes Birth Photography

We must recognize that a child is a child from the very first moment a mother or a father learns of a pregnancy. There is no such thing is “a little bit pregnant”! By recognizing a pregnancy as a child from the beginning (as Mom has) it changes the way we treat the baby, the mother, the father….the family. Yes we are essentially “expecting a child”, but that carries a whole lot more expectation than one who might be “expecting a UPS package”. A “mother to be” may be any non-pregnant woman who sees herself a mother someday. A woman who is pregnant should already be defined a mother.

Why hire a birth photographer?

Why hire a birth photographer?

There are many reasons to hire a birth photographer. Having a baby comes with many dreams and plans, much like your wedding day. Having those loving moments captured between you and your family as your dreams become real will allow you to revisit and share this beautiful experience later as your baby grows up. It is not about capturing the process of birth but all about capturing the love, desires, and strengths that come through the experience.

A hired birth photographer is fully dedicated to capture the special moments throughout your labor and birth, freeing up Dad to focus completely on you and on his own experience as your baby is born. The moments captured can bring grandparents into the intimate experience of the birth of their grandchild to add to their joy of this new arrival, which may be especially important for those that are separated by distances that cannot be overcome to be present for this blessed event.

Your birth photographer brings experience in shooting in this kind of environment that sometimes is very tricky with low light or BRIGHT light that makes capturing these moments difficult. The creative eye of a experienced photographer sees the little things that make up the whole story, in a much more inclusive way, that may go unnoticed by others but when viewed later touches your heart from the memory it creates.

Will you take pictures of “down there”?

Modesty is always a consideration for Mom’s and completely understandable. As an experienced birth photographer I know how to position myself to get the images without compromising your privacy. Though some images may capture “down there” they will be captured with the utmost care in delivering the first moments of your baby’s arrival with beauty and care.

What about all the blood and yuck?

Though the birth process itself may be a bit yucky to those that may be squeamish, it is a very small portion of the whole story. I take the images in a manner that diminishes the yuck effect and can lessen the impact in post-production. You will certainly receive images that will not bring the yuck out and likely will be completely unnoticed.

What steps do I need to take to hire a birth photographer?

Contact me early if you are considering a birth photographer. Though it may seem like you have 9 months to plan, just as wedding photography goes, it is important to reserve the date. I can only contract to do 2 births a month due to the uncertainty of when your baby will actually decide to arrive. I require a deposit to secure your due date and I can arrange payment schedules to pay over time if that will assure your ability to capture such a special event.

We will meet to discuss your birth plans and get to know each other better. I am always available to answer your questions and to discuss your fears. I will want you to stay in contact throughout your pregnancy to keep me informed of how things are going. We will not feel like strangers by the time your birth arrives.

What happens when the time arrives?

I will begin call 3 weeks before your due date. When you begin labor you will need to begin communicating with me immediately, night or day. The timing of my arrival will depend on may factors such as number of previous deliveries, etc. You should have a designated person to make these timely communications for you (probably Dad as he will be right there).

Why should I hire 10 fingers 10 toes birth photography?

I not only have experience in birth photography but have been a practicing RN in Labor & Delivery and Neonatal Intensive Care for many years. I know all the behind the scenes processes of the birth environment. This can come in handy when it comes to being in the right place at the right time and anticipating what’s to come. I also keep your privacy in utmost care. I am here to provide you with a completely professional photography experience.

Contact me at janbarkerphotography@gmail.com   or   call 785-214-5990